Personally if I am in love, I treat my partner like gold dust and place them on a pedestal, but that's not to say it works well for me. It's just not my nature to mistreat people.
However the following did occur to me recently when thinking about the old
'treat them mean to keep them keen' cliche.
When people are mean to us we tend to worker that bit harder to get them to be nice to us. This usually involves us being nicer to them.
But when people are already nice to us, we do not have to work at getting them to be nice so we either are or are not nice, but it's not something that requires deliberate effort.
In which case, the old
'treat 'em mean to keep 'em keen' cliche appears to work.
I also noticed that when I am PMT'd (period stress) and I turn into super bitch for two days of every month, I am tad off hand with my lover. He as result becomes a little insecure and more affectionate.
He shouldn't reward my bad behaviour, but he can't seem to help himself and similarly I run after him more when he's in a sulk about something.
Is this why the other cliche
'Nice guys finish last'
also seems to ring true?
I hope not.
More on this later.
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